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September 24th, 2020 at 03:16 am

i have had the opportunity to change jobs as i usually take temp assignments that end and i can find a spot in a different industry or setting.
I was talking with a friend recently and we spoke of changing jobs she never has spending many years working at the same company sure at different levels but basically the same place.
I did that early on and I was so glad to leave and found far more fascinating work.

I am just curious as to what is the decision to leave for many people. I cannot seem to find a reason to Stay anywhere had plenty of offers but i think if i am not semi happy about the work or proud of the company etc i have a hard time trying to stay.

I asked my friend what would you do if you drove to your work and saw the whole thing in flames what would be the first thing that crosses your mind...

1. unemployment or working at alternate site until rebuilt?
2. finding something else?

3. cartwheels that it has finally ended .....


she laughed and said #1 and that is when I realized I am at a #3 at my current place.

I feel bad in a way that i took it upon myself to learn far more then they expected because their version of the job was not enough work and super boring..... but now i see i just cant see myself here much longer.

I was wondering what moments other had that just said time to go.....

6 Responses to “moving on”

  1. Lots of Ideas Says:
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    I only worked at four places
    1. I was a waitress through college and grad school and full time for nine months while I looked for a ‘real’ job. I loved the work, but I left to make use of my education. I was in the ‘need experience’ hole...
    2. I was an accounting clerk. I got the job through a friend. It was very easy for me, not challenging, and an odd corporate vibe. I lasted 6 months, but leveraged it into my next job.
    3. IT for an insurance company. I worked in three different departments, and only left when I was laid off. I didn’t love every day but I learned a huge amount, worked with people I cared about and felt valued.
    4. IT for a private bank. Left when I retired. I had some rough patches, but was always able to find new challenges to keep me there, and again, I cared for the people and felt valued.

    The most important thing for me for a job to be a success was to work for someone who listened to me and to feel like what I did made a difference. Anytime that wasn’t true, I looked around internally and found a way to make a change so it was.

  2. Smallsteps Says:
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    thanks for your response it shows what i have been noticing, the people .....honestly i may miss one person if that.
    Part of the reason I did stay at an early job for a long time was I felt I was making a difference and had great people. In current place I know i Help but I really think it is a people thing.
    Staff act as if they are on a life raft and refuse to see shore it about 10 feet away. every item seems to be dealt with as a bigger production then it needs to be.
    perhaps it is the attitude ....we are filled with people whom want to take the simple item and try to spin it in wording as super technical. sending a billion emails that in the end say nothing makes you miss the one that was important.



  3. CB in the City Says:
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    For most of my working life I was a single mom. I was always in fear that I would lose my job somehow. I was unhappy in some of them and looked for other opportunities, but my situation made it difficult to take risks. I think the one thing that made me long to change jobs was dysfunction in the workplace -- the wrong people getting recognition, the wrong principles being promoted.

  4. Wink Says:
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    Early on in my career (after I finished college) I would stay in a job for a few years to continue learning and hopefully advance. If I started feeling stagnant, I would look for a new opportunity. My last job at the college I stayed for 19 years. I loved it there, up until the last 3 years when we got a new Dean. She was insufferable and no matter what I did it just wasn't going to work. I was pretty miserable for the last 2 years, but I was too close to retirement to leave and give up my health care subsidy. So I stuck it out, and as soon as I was eligible, I retired. I actually retired earlier then I had originally planned because of her.

  5. LivingAlmostLarge Says:
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    My DH switched careers because his entire department of 30 was axed to 5 people. He came home and said I'm done. Let's move and I have no friends anymore. Everyone was axed and I wish it were me. So we moved without a job and prospects.

  6. Smallsteps Says:
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    CB- I understand some people have to stick with jobs, if circumstances make it harder to jump ship. A job i once stayed too long, paid poorly but had very good insurance and i stayed a long time basically to keep coverage for my kids. DH had changed jobs during those years and jobs paid really well but health insurance was often so-so. I too am frustrated by IMO odd priorities and my group takes group credit even if it fell on one or two ppl doing the work.

    Wink- i too have suffered through management change and had suffered through insufferable co-workers as well. I does make it miserable if people wake up in morning and simply do not want to go in or dread bedtime because morning is going to bring that dread make a miserable time. I think life is too short for that.

    LAL- it is very hard to really maintain friendships outside of work these days. many people are very busy etc. in a case of losing that many friends at once i could see your DH point. I once transferred from one location to another had what i thought were great friends but out of site out of mind as i was the only person making calls and trying to set up after work get togethers. Makes me see work friendships are often just tied to work only
    I have very little connection with those here anyway to be more then pleasant.

    Even this WFH thing has created a weird thing at my work where people I was never chatty with.... Now if we pass each other on days some of us NEED to do onsite work they want to chat on and on with me. I think many miss socialization.


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