I have alot of time to think about items as WFH has been really watch TV or movie answer a couple of emails and attend one or two zoom meetings.
leaves alot of time to do other things or think about things.
As I said in my post yesterday my DD is thinking about moving out of the house she has rented from me.
I did not expect this to bother me as much as it has. I have been thinking about what is next. we moved a few years ago for DH work and bought a second home here for cash. I have never liked this area and had hoped to move home when we retired.
That is what he told me we kept house and rented to DD and SIL for an extremely reasonable price. It is in a good location and has 5 bedrooms so it can be sold I guess, I just feel lost as this was our home from early on and I am somewhat attached to it.
I am trying to see it as a box or commodity simply to be sold. I look around to some we know who have beautiful new built homes that look like a catalog but they are never there both working into retirement trying to pay for this show home ... WHY have that unless you have the time to enjoy it?
Both my home are not the newest builds and latest gadgets etc but both are good locations and very functional. I think DH has changed his mind on moving back as the area we are now has more temperate weather. All he seems concerned about is how long a golf season is.
So I think DD and SIL should have been more upfront on their intentions and I also think DH should be clear on do we sell or not. If I hear what ever you want one more time I might snap.
If nothing has any sentimental value I guess I should start purging all my things now.
It helps to vent.....
about to step on some toes
April 15th, 2020 at 02:38 pm
April 15th, 2020 at 08:31 pm 1586982708
April 16th, 2020 at 12:53 am 1586998418
Keeping things for sentimental reasons is a tough issue no matter what the item is, but it's really tough when you're talking about a house instead of a photograph or piece of jewelry. If you aren't going to live there and nobody in your family is going to live there, I don't see the value in keeping it unless you want to use it as a rental property.
April 16th, 2020 at 01:46 am 1587001595
April 16th, 2020 at 03:07 am 1587006441
The original plan was to move back to that area as DH is closer to retirement age then I am.
As for current area there is a lot to dislike and both would prefer the slower less densely populated original city. this area has less cold weather so it extends golf season which seems to be his passion of late. no there is no where close enough that would improve this area and making a long commute is not worth it. It is more then the area it seems to be a different mind frame of people as well... too wrapped up and not very nice.
I would have liked dd/SIL to say "hey, we are thinking about..... " instead of me asking why a 5 yr old is saying "did you know we are moving ?" then I think back to her talking about checking/ working on their credit score.
I honestly think they would have waited until it is 30 day notice when this was a deal beneficial to both parties not a regular rental. If this had been a real rental situation they were not good tenants the yard needs to be redone. There is some water damage in one bathroom and dog ruined a carpet in the back hallway. there was not a damage deposit but if there had been they would not get any back.
Either way I will be the one to either take time off or quit to clear house and do any repairs/ updates before renting or selling. i am not fond of my current spot but have a good lead for something that with my luck will need to pass due to DD timing.
We have had this conversation but it always ends in we will see this will force the issue. I guess I could move there and visit here about a 5 hour drive.
April 17th, 2020 at 12:00 am 1587081633