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bite my tongue

January 8th, 2019 at 04:51 am

So I was approached by a childhood friend asking me to reach out to a mutual friend who is going through big life changes.
Long story short her hubby left and the divorce is getting ugly. Her life was picture perfect and like many other friends before they simply are not thinking clearly about the fact that they need to seriously DO the math. the income is simply not there anymore and things go with that decrease in finances

I guess that the ruling will decide if she gets the house while she wants it for her kids, the payment/ or even upkeep and taxes will most likely be most of her income. Not even sure if she has fulltime job as she was PT and lived a lifestyle that was paid by hubby.
Yes she will get support for awhile but as her kids are teens that is short term.
I want so badly to say "winning" the house to lose it later when you cannot keep up is not winning.
This will be a lesson in biting my tongue.

3 Responses to “bite my tongue”

  1. alliecat79 Says:

    I agree. Better for your friend and ex to sell the house and split the profits jointly. She can then free and clear purchase something within her budget. People get emotionally attached to homes, though.

  2. Wife of the Deacon Says:

    I hope she has a financial planner in addition to a lawyer helping her navigate settlement payments. Sometimes there isn't a benefit to accepting a front-loaded payment. She may want equitable maintenance across a specific timeline.

  3. rob62521 Says:

    Some folks are so upset they view these things like a win and have no common sense on how they are going to take care of the house once they "won" it. Perhaps suggesting a financial advisor would be helpful so you don't have to bite your tongue so much.

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