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picking up the check

December 15th, 2018 at 11:23 pm

A little back story my spouse and I have been together for 34 years. we got married this last February. We have always had separate sort of finances. I have access to his accounts but he has no access to mine he makes almost 3x my income always has.
I work temp jobs and while working I try to contribute more to household bills and events. Often we end up taking our grown children and spouses out to meals very often ( about 80%) I pick up the check. I never say how much I paid etc.
Tonight we took our son and his spouse out for a get together for Christmas. DH picked a fairly pricey restaurant ( I had suggested more reasonably priced options) and seemed to insist everyone order whatever. I had planned on grabbing the check because I have had some OT, but he was giving the server his card before I reached my purse.
I told him as we were leaving I was going to pick up check and he started in complaining about it was $236 and I only pick up the small tabs etc. and proceeded to break down what price certain items cost placing the cost blame on my sons spouse.
I was and still am a bit confused as to WHY we should be playing who paid for what. We are not hurting for money but I too agreed that seemed high for dinner for 4. does anyone else keep tabs on what their spouse paid for etc??

here we go again

December 6th, 2018 at 04:46 am

So for anyone that has read my posting you might know I started current TEMP placement in august and suppose to end in June.
Here is December and I am counting down the days. I realize it is my issue but I am just not embracing incompetence. I realize that we all make mistakes and can miss small details but lately the people who are SIMPLY not reading.
I attach and organize POs and paperwork for billing. A lady who has done this job for years (almost a decade), emails me asking "where the info was that accepted the updated price of service?"

I literally told her it is the line in the email sent by the CUSTOMER that is in BOLD font. Then she said "oh never mind , I did not read it" literally it is her job to read. Then we have those who do not scroll down, again long time people that just want me to spoon feed them the items they need.

I am making awesome progress with my finances since this place, in my opinion, grossly overpays based on the job, BUT I cannot stand incompetence and a complete lack of give a hoot.
Another co-worker stays the maximum OT and what is she doing … shopping online and playing on her phone.


I know it is everywhere but I am just fed up at the crap.
Now manager thinks we all need so much OT but I finish my 8 hours of work in 5 and am bored out of my mind cause I don't watch tv on my phone!!!!!!!!

the flintstones

December 3rd, 2018 at 05:41 pm

I was thinking about watching the Flintstones as a child.
I remember Fred would often have some sort of big idea or opportunity and perhaps get to leave the gravel pit forever but alas something would happen and whatever Fred gained he loses it back to the same or close to the same place he started.

I have had moments like that when as soon as I have a debt gone or reach a milestone..... something will happen and I seem to be right back in the same neighborhood of debt.
I have been on a roll for bit without a "correction" and am becoming very cautious for what is around the corner.
Even writing this I feel like I am tempting fate but I wanted to know if any others here had experienced the same type of phenomenon???

so it begins

December 2nd, 2018 at 03:28 pm

I went out this weekend and started the dreaded Christmas shopping....
I wanted to pick up the lifesaver candy books while Target had a good selection, last year I had to go to a couple of stores since they were almost gone. some of my group like the gummies, some the hard candy and still others like the starburst versions.
NEVER bring DH along soon I had dog treats and a gingerbread house in the cart along with some personalized ornaments for the grandkids. I bought some clothes for the little ones. so it added up quickly.

We woke up this morning and DH's I-pad simply died would not turn on so off to the apple store and lucky him he had bought it exactly one year ago to the day so they simply replaced his old one they could not get it to do anything their diagnostic machine simply said dead.

While waiting for his turn at apple, I found a specialty tea store bought some tea for myself a bit more then I would usually pay but that is what seems to happen when you are out and about around the holidays.
Also stopped in Penney's and found two shirts and a pair of jeans with a friends and family discount promotion they had I got the 3 items for $32

Also went to use a $10 discount earned from a previous visit at Oshkosh store.
I bought some footed PJs and some shirts for my 1 yr old grandson. all in all a good deal of $17 after the 10 dollars off.

We then decided to get a nice lunch out... so considering I had 7.5 hours of OT last week I ended up spending about $45 over the OT money I guess I can live with that.

things

December 1st, 2018 at 09:12 am

As I write this it is day one of a month were so many are out there shopping and buying things....
I do not want things, I don't want to give things either. I had hoped to do what a call an "experience Christmas"

The idea is to buy concert tickets or maybe a some other small experience. already planned one for a 4 year old but the rest of family is not keen on the idea.
Probably because in the past they never used their "gift" one year my son wanted us to get a small ding in his car fixed we said yep just do it we would pay well he never seemed to schedule it and now has already sold that car and bought something else. So I always look at it like his gift was a empty promise.

My son who married in August seemed to roll his eyes at idea but his spouse had the gall to ask if I would pay for a trip to Italy??? Really over the top of the idea.
I also have decided to get rid of things I am not in the frame of mind or have time to plan shipping etc to sell stuff either online or whatever I think I will re-gift some nice items that for whatever reason I just stored for years.
I really could kick myself I do not know what I was saving these things for. The people who gave these to me must have wanted me to enjoy them but instead things sat in a closet. what a waste.

401 k option

November 25th, 2018 at 09:34 am

so being a long weekend I started cleaning out old mail and items I need to organize. It is something I tell myself I wont let build up again but always do.
I opened some that seemed like junk mail again it was an offer for a 401k with the temp company.
I read through the proposal a few times and it seemed like it was questionable if I should sign up. it has fees that seem high and a $25 fee to rollover if I change jobs etc. I have had 401ks at other places NEVER had to pay a rollover fee.
It also has a 3 year before you are vested to collect any match but literally says some assignments have a match and some don't. so this assignment will credit 6 months and this one has a match no guarantee that next placement has a match. also need to stay with this group for the next 3 years. Not sure if I want to add that to my items when I need to chose next gig.
The whole thing seems vague but I recently have been open to considering options I would have just decided no immediately. Like looking at the road not traveled.
I asked a friend and posted on the forum but instead got a 401k sales pitch and lessons on compound interest. I know it is not personal but it is aggravating when some responses seem condescending.


Anyway I guess I will just skip this at the present time.

lights are up

November 24th, 2018 at 06:12 pm

So DH put up lights on our house as well as the elderly neighbors house. it is an extension cord and her lights are tied to ours.
I know she would worry about increased cost and I guess it is fine since we can afford what ever small amount the few extra strings of light will add up. It has made her happy and her friends came by to see. I guess that should make me feel more like holiday like but nope.

Today is the anniversary of my mothers death it has hit me very hard but I have no one to share with.

I am very stressed about the next month where the job expects a ton of OT. I just do not feel like it is worth it and I get cranky as I see others stretch stuff out to soak up OT which makes boss think we ALL need to be there. I have transferred more money out of liquid accounts to prepay mortgage and extra to IRAs just to try to trick myself into wanting to restock accounts with OT money, so far this has not worked.

I need to find a hobby or a goal to save money for. I need motivation to move forward. I am needing to focus on my health as well I have been randomly eating. My DH has brought home treats and bought items we have not been eating because he knows I have been stressed and a bit depressed.

dealing with the upcoming stress

November 17th, 2018 at 07:24 am

This year I am hoping to avoid most stress that starts after Halloween and often goes into January.

I used to think how hard would it be to have a death etc to ruin a holiday. Last year I FOUND out.

After many days of lingering after taken off life support my mother passed on Black Friday. My thanksgiving was alone in a cafeteria of a hospital. Thankfully they did a great job for those who were either working or in the hospital.

This year all the grown kids have their own plans, we are on our own. i hoped to not cook but DH received a free turkey from his job so I think he want me to cook. last year he was at home with deli fried chicken while I was waiting in hospital in another city.

I just want to forget Thanksgiving for at least a few years. then come holidays I feel more obligated then excited about gifts etc. my kids are grown and really do not need/ want much so it becomes a chore to find stuff and I always want to get things that will be used as opposed to stuff to clutter their world.

During this is year end in my job which seems to be a big issue (I have only been here since august). They expect us to put tons of OT in for this and i am not sure how well I can operate with no time/ no ideas and simply no joy this year. OT is just not worth it when I am falling into this depression.
A radio station has already started the Christmas music had to drop it off my presets in car until it is over.

this and that

November 4th, 2018 at 04:15 pm

I am getting restless not sure why. I have been trying to stay super busy to keep my mind occupied as the anniversary of my mothers death fast approaches.

My house payment for house my daughters family is living in is going up, a combo of property taxes and an escrow shortage last year.
I have let them see the notice thinking they would clue in that the money they are paying will need to go up too. They seem oblivious and DH wants me to speak up and tell them it is x amount more. I think it should be a joint discussion but he never takes up the landlord type problems.

I am getting ready for other items like heat to go up as it cools off. Now I am thinking this change will make me look over all of budget since often even if daughter pays more, they often are not always on time. For example they deposit the money in my account and it is now a few days into the month and they have yet to deposit while the auto pay comes out every 1st of the month.
The few times of them paying late I spoke of in the forums before, it simply an inconvenience not really costing me but it is irritating.

I thought they would be better after they looked and priced what moving would cost earlier in year and found most places not even comparable to the deal they have with me. One close house to the area mine is, but with 2 less bedrooms is renting for 900 more a month then I have them pay.

I have been thinking that savings is like diets you have some wins and losses and days you do not feel like doing it at all. I have been on a plateau for months now not feeling like I was making any difference at all. I know the sidebar says I am, but it just seems like slow motion.
I am thinking it is because I feel like time is moving too fast I wanted car loan gone and be able to throw more money at IRA and other things.

here comes November

November 1st, 2018 at 04:12 am

Well we seem to never have trick or treaters in my neighborhood but DH asked me to buy some candy in case...I think incase he wants some.

I was surprised at the cost of candy it is not something I normally buy so it seemed a little higher then I expected for fun size bars.
I was wondering what other items people may not buy very often and then seem surprised what the price is ?????

I only did very little OT because we really did not have the work. I was surprised that my coworker has stayed 2 hours extra a day and most of that is watching tv on her phone. just in case last minute emails came in before the month end cut off. Sometimes I think i could use the OT money but cannot justify sitting there doing nothing.



keeping up with whomever

October 18th, 2018 at 06:39 pm

I know that comparing is fruitless as we all have different realities. I spent the day at a teambuilding event for my work we all went to a corn maze and had lunch and played games. I tend to be very quiet and listen and frankly I was stunned by the amount of info they shared.

Many of these people have the new gadgets, nicer cars etc but many of them are working themselves to death with multiple jobs and openly share the fact they are broke.
In this area and I have worked at many places as I do temp work and this scene plays out over and over.
While I should be thrilled and feel grateful that my situation is by comparison, fantastic, I feel sad that the state of financial health and the lack of real financial education by the masses.
I feel over paid at this place for the type of work and they are generous with OT but the people are all chasing their tails.
This is NOT a low end company and I cannot fathom how far ahead I would be if I had been here even a year ago.
I wonder what effect being surrounded by people never making headway is. I think when you look to those around you it is easy to justify splurges as everyone else is doing it etc.

need to track better

October 13th, 2018 at 08:32 am

so I just received the 7th check at my new job based on average amount x 7= Q
I think I have about 26 weeks more left on this placement.
I then took Q and subtracted all extra payments on debt only ended up with about half of total of Q...…..

next I subtracted bills paid/ food cost/ gas / and then found I still have about 800 I don't have a clear idea where it went.

I think about 400 went to IRA/ other investment and think the other 400 was split among the savings accounts / checking accounts and a couple of eating out splurges. and a $80 eye cream I bought and LOVE.

I told myself that I was going to pay off more then I did and even though I felt good watching balances drop I feel disappointed that 400 seemed to not be clearly accounted for.

end of year is coming

October 10th, 2018 at 06:26 pm

I had high hopes to reach a few goals I made for myself by end of year. I doubt now I will make some of them time seems to be moving so fast.
it has been almost a years since my mother passed and I am fighting bouts of depression as the time is approaching.
I lowered my cushion in checking and paid on car and house but I hate the feeling of the lower cushion so I will need to build back up.

End of September had a week with decent OT but have spent all the extra on bills / savings. I do not want to do the seven day a week thing again this month but maybe just a few extra hours a day. having my direct deposit split in 3 accounts makes it seem like I am not making progress in main account.

new week

September 24th, 2018 at 05:56 pm

So today they announced we have mandatory OT yet, I was the only one that stayed the time. I guess I am just too new to see what emails and rules we must follow. I hope I get enough done tomorrow that I will be able to leave earlier then today the difference in traffic made communte home twice as long too.

When I got home DH was late too. He had not opened his mail but did and found the same letter assigning him a doctor in a different city then we live in.
He immediately called the insurance company. I really feel bad for their staff as they tried to spin this insane ideas into something reasonable...…... the young man finally gave up with the spin and said he spends eight hours a day with people frustrated and mad about these stupid programs trying to force people into medical tests and going to doctors they would NEVER consider on their own.
So we opted out of them sending us any of this "helpful suggestions" in the future. LOL
How SAD and miserable of a job that must be to hear complaints all day long. At what point will this company wake up and see the damage they are inflicting on themselves.

dealing with bad customer service

September 22nd, 2018 at 05:16 pm

So the last couple of days have been trying to deal with just in my opinion unacceptable issues with companies I do business with. I have worked in customer service and do not usually let minor BS bother me but this week has me frustrated.
I am tired of emails with NO purpose but to sell me something. My homeowners insurance company sent 2 increasingly urgent emails that I call them to go over my policy ASAP. I called when I had a chance as business hours I am usually working. I TOLD them I was responding to THEIR emails and they acted like I called to discuss stuff about policy on my own they had hoped to sell me additional policies like car even though they had cancelled ME a few years ago because my son had an accident. so the guy said HUH well that is what those emails are about is to sell you upgrades or other insurance. I went back and re-read emails and shared with a friend who also agreed that WAS not the tone of email it was more like if I did not call there was going to be a problem.

#2 I have a membership at a massage chain and have built up many free uses and could not catch up with using them so I took a freeze on membership for 6 months to get a chance to use up visits. I am now in month 4 and for 2 of 4 months they tried to charge me the fee that is waived during a freeze. I complained and they acted like it was somehow my fault.


#3 This year the insurance we have through my husbands employer had already made me angry by sending a demanding letter to get a bunch of tests some person at insurance company decided without ever seeing me I needed. I ignored their RUDE letter NOW I get one with them assigning me a doctor.... in a town about 15-20 miles away from where I live … WTH?? Now I have to fight them to use a doctor in their network that is in my neighborhood seriously they have my address they sent the letter!!
I guess I should buy them a map app so they can see assigning to someone in another town is STUPID.


I need to get in a better frame of mind to deal with these annoyances.... I will talk to my independent agent to discuss insurance maybe change companies... massage place have now waived all fees and offered extras to appease me.

next is health insurance, every one whom asked who the company is just groans, and says "I am sorry, they suck" so I doubt I will have anything but trouble maybe next year company will have a better option.


#4

September 17th, 2018 at 03:10 pm

So I have wrote out 3 previous entries to the blog some were long and detailed and when I pushed the button to save and publish it just disappears so I am sending a test through today to see if it works.


hooray it finally works so I will just add to this.

The new job is going very well and even though it only last until JUNE 2019 I will make the most of the checks.
I was trying to hit every possible thing with money but I am truly getting frustrated at the speed so I am really dialing down on the car loan. being that it is the last quarter of the year I also want to send as much as I can to my IRA and Roth. also each end of month week they offer OT so I will try to get at least a few hours extra.

the bonus interest rate on my new accounts has made me think I should move most of my liquid accounts to this CU, although I noticed this last month my bank has lifted the rate they pay so I am doing a tiny bit better there.

Smallsteps's Personal Finance Blog update

August 28th, 2018 at 05:24 pm

This new job has a Friday payday. The previous one the direct deposit was on Wednesday.
I will learn to adjust my payments but in reality I have a large cushion in checking which is now I am thinking too large and could do more for me in either an interest earning account or paying extra on debt.
I also have decided that there are a few items I have put off that really should be dealt with such as some minor car/ house maintenance. I also need to revisit my retirement goals as these contract jobs do not offer 401k etc and I need to bump up my IRA/ Roth IRA.
I realize I have gotten impatient and could have possibly done better investing instead of throwing so much towards mortgage which is at a very low interest rate. I will try to hold off on throwing money on that but in reality it is a very fast WIN to see the mortgage balance fall.

new job

August 23rd, 2018 at 05:13 pm

So tomorrow will be the last day of the first week of new job. All is going very well. I have more work then I can complete each day and will not be just sitting waiting for work like last job. commute is also shorter and less stressing. Saving on gas as well.

Last week was exhausting leading up to my sons wedding on Saturday everything went well no real hiccups so we are very glad to get past the stress of wedding plans.
My house is still messy after having daughter/ son in law and grandkids at house for a few days for wedding events. I have a lot of kid type food leftover so I will make lunches out of it.
I am still not sure what my plan should be as paychecks start rolling in again. I cannot seem to focus on one goal. So I guess I will just stay the course and make all over progress.

a few days away

August 13th, 2018 at 06:00 pm

I took a quick trip to my hometown. My daughter and family lives there in my house. I not pleased with lack of yardwork done and general upkeep I will need to discuss and talk with DH about reminding them to clean up more or hiring help. My son in law also seems to think each time I am in town I should take them out for meals etc.
Went to visit my step dad it has been since November since my mom passed but he does not seem to be doing well. I told him how bad a financial mess she had left behind in NOVEMBER.
Now almost 9 months later my siblings JUST figured it out that there is simply NOTHING to estate but bills and they seem confused as to where any money went.
I was quite clear that it was bailing out everyone of siblings and families crisis ( they had a crisis daily). Even though NONE of my siblings are working and live locally, they think that I should drop everything ( a fulltime job) and drive 5 hours to clean up her house and things. I looked over things again and she had some nice clothes and things but not even close to my size but somehow they think I should take these items I took a few items but regret it already as it is nothing but clutter for me to deal with.

working on my patience

August 7th, 2018 at 05:33 am

I have come to realize that my level of patience seems to be at an all time low. Maybe that is why the job with nothing to do bothered me so much.

I went in on yesterday and started on the project still with a bit of work from Friday. in about an hour the supervisor came in and told me to start the work left over. Well at that point I had finished the 2 items she listed and one other item, I suppose she was giving to someone else. I double checked the work and then sent the email saying A,B,C was done. her response after letting me sit there for weeks, was to check with other departments to see if anyone needed help and since they did not told me I could leave for the day if I wanted.

I left and did a few errands I have put off for awhile. I will go in today but doubt there is anymore work I hope they just realize that and let me call it done as this is the last week of my notice.

I really hope new job is much better but have doubts since most all businesses I have gone in etc never show any speed beyond SNAIL.
I recently opened an account at a CU partly because I needed a closer option for banking and because they had a promotion deal that paid great interest and a bonus for opening account not only for me but for son who referred me.
The day I went in, the line for service was increasing and was not being addressed very fast. I noticed some employees who usually did things like mortgages probably could do things like open accounts but instead sat there talking with feet up on desk.
Also a recent trip to DMV was also poorly run as most other locations streamline processes by taking the shorter tasks first finding if they can speed process up by answering questions before sitting there for hours to be told "oh we need this document instead" this location supervisor was actually IMO slowing things down.
I was annoyed but everyone around me seemed less annoyed and just resigned to poor service and slow work.
How do I learn to accept poor performance and a simple trip that should be 30 minutes taking 2.5 hours??
I really do not feel it is me because I have seen and worked in situations where when faced with a large influx of customers of work you prioritize and try to adapt not just look up and think whoo hoo OT work at the same snail pace.
When I finally got to the counter the person helping me wanted to chit chat like seriously do you not see a room full of people waiting???

new chapter

August 1st, 2018 at 07:25 pm

So this week is over half over has been awkward at best. Everyone has ignored me since I gave notice. 1 person has talked to me and I just explained it was a better opportunity. So 3 other people have quit this place since I gave notice so I feel it is NOT just me being picky.
I am doing ok and this week they have given me work after I send emails asking for a new project … really for a month I sat half the time and now that I am leaving they have workflow. I just take a deep breath and do what I can. I found out I will need to leave early or come in late to go to a specific lab for the drug test for new place. It is 15 miles away but with traffic will be an hour round trip and the clinic is only open 7-4 Monday through Friday. Again how do people manage to fit this stuff in always taking time off to change jobs?? I am trying very hard to let my frustrations go and work on going forward.

2 weeks

July 26th, 2018 at 06:12 am

So as the title suggests I gave notice to job last night. A job I had applied for awhile back called and offered me a better position closer to home/ more money / longer plan. I was planning on giving notice anyway I just feel it looks better that I am leaving for something else. Was told yesterday this place has hired another person too to help with the workload ?? Other 4 had a 40 minute conversation about stories of bad personal hygiene they had encountered in previous workplaces.
I think the thing that settled it for me was since we had little to do my department was told to clean the breakroom for the whole office. NOT a big thing I have worked at places before that rotated this duty but I was unaware it was our "turn" and the reminder sent to all was a bit condescending.
No guarantee that new job will fix my malaise about working as many here have said they are in the same frame of mind ( all around the same age). I am just dreading the reaction today as they find I am leaving. I work for temp agency so sent notice to them, they can tell the client.
I am making hard goals to keep me focused on the next year of work. I would like to get as much as I can paid off and in retirement so DH and I can decide what to do next. He is in the mode wanting to do more travel/ etc but as he is salary and has a lot of PTO and I am contract with no PTO it is hard for us to work out time off.

one step forward... two back

July 25th, 2018 at 05:24 am

So as an update I recently decided to pay as much as possible to car made some good progress as shown on sidebar. I also opened a new account that is paying a promo rate of 6% on savings and 4% on checking so I am going to move some from regular account over to new one to make the interest. ( my normal bank has no close branches here so I wanted an option if I need to deposit cash or checks).
This did help with the dissatisfaction with new job until I sat for 5 hours AGAIN yesterday. It is exhausting and frustrating to be so bored and pretend to work and look busy. Yes I asked sent 2 emails to supervisor for work even went over to her desk. just told she will send me a project. I want out and no progress on car or saving money can fix that. I am sure if I quit temp agency likes to punish ppl so they wont consider placing me until this contract would have been over... if I stay this company wants this to turn into a fulltime thing prolonging this is helping NO one I am miserable/ they are wasting time training me and temp agency needs to find them someone who can sit doing nothing and be ok with that.

one thing off my to do list

July 23rd, 2018 at 08:07 pm

I have a big to do list that I can't seem to get to. Today I did one of the things on the list. I opened a new account at a local bank since my nearest branch of regular bank is a pain to get to.
It was a special deal that if referred by a member ( my son) and open a savings /checking combo and make 5 deposits/ checks or atm / debit card transactions a month and in 90 days we both get $100 and they pay 6% on the first 500 in checking and 500 in savings so I will transfer over money to at least make the 6%. Every little bit helps right?

I opened account with some change I rolled up had $24 dollars. with a new account(s) to feed..... maybe it will inspire me to keep working even though I am still not thrilled about this job.

different styles

July 22nd, 2018 at 08:40 am

Between reading the forums and blogs I am yet again rethinking my strategy. I am making steady progress and never understood the Ramsey method of just one debt at a time, I pay extra on all items, more on high % but some on everything each check. The logic is there of why his system works but I think I am missing out on time to grow savings/ retirement. I also enjoy seeing all # going down steady.

I also am not sure about the zero based budget either.
I mean, I have an EF and I have a 1500 cushion in checking as well but I still am nervous to pay every last dollar out of paychecks to debt. I am trying to inch up to spending more of check on debt instead of holding 1/6 for misc. but habits are hard to break.
especially when I am searching for a better fit for a job.
For all of you that pay it using the other methods how long did it take to change your pattern or did you just bite the bullet and do it ???

job seeking tips/ advice

July 20th, 2018 at 06:08 am

I keep hearing "look for a job when you HAVE one " how is this working for others?
I can not seem to get it to work for me.
I would have to take time off for interviews and that is rude or obvious I am looking elsewhere when I ask for time off in the first month I am there. Maybe it is just me. I am having issues with this job already and unfortunately it is EXACTLY as was described in a yelp post about this place.
The training is zero/ my workload is zero I have sat there more then work keep being told they will have something for me in a little bit. Finally just discussed with supervisor her info showed I had 7 projects but those are done with my part and sent to the next person I told her that and she seemed confused why the reviewer has not been working on looking at the work and either finished the process or sending back for corrections.

supervisor gave me new project had conflicting info on it when I asked the lead she BARKED at me " you don't know what you are reading" well 5 minutes later she saw the EXACT thing I told her and emailed for clarification( I was added to email). I do not take well to being barked at.
The last day was 15 emails back and forth planning a team building put-put golf outing that is an hour drive away for me and includes "drinks" which I am not a drinker. I have politely declined on this and many offers of Starbucks runs and offer to all get takeout for lunch after I brought my lunch. the place they chose (I looked after words) was $10-15 for lunch and they do this 2-3 times a week.
HOW much am I supposed to spend to FIT IN ???
They seem to think I am offish because I said no thanks- I told them I am watching my weight and have food allergies so I rarely eat out but they seem to take it personally.

Maybe I am not up to speed on what the norm but this is very stressful on me and I come home angry every day.

time for decision

July 19th, 2018 at 06:02 am

So as the end of my 3rd week of new job is quickly approaching I am faced with a decision.
I do not see a future here period. I know it has only been a short time but I try to picture myself in 6 month/ a year etc. Most places I can see it really cannot here. Not interested in what they do
As with many jobs I have taken some I stay with telling myself well I have (x) amount coming in. I tell myself I will continue to apply etc but reality is that is short lived and I am stuck at a place I never wanted to be at. They were NOT clear on what this job was and I am busy for probably half week the rest I am pretending to be busy it is exhausting.
This is probably why they have had problems filling this on their own and went to a temp agency. I had hoped to hear about other job but not yet I really think i should give notice anyway they could be training another person who wants to do this and I would be forced to find something else.

update on dog

July 17th, 2018 at 06:23 am

So the heavy meds given to him by vet did nothing to improve his situation just knocked him out. He has not eaten much even tried to hand feed him several times.

DH took him back had the X-rays done and got a new special made medicine ( at $80) to try had to wait 4 days for this. Had to wait all Friday and weekend before someone could READ the x-rays and they show them NOTHING. They said for his breed ( life expectancy is about 12) and guesstimated ( 10+) age hips back etc looks good. they suggested an MRI.
DH is going to ask about that cost.
I am just honestly furious at the total lack of either give a damn or customer service in finding out what is wrong with this dog. This is a highly recommended and reviewed vet clinic in this area. This area SUCKS NO one expects good service out of anything. no work ethic no customer service and no sense of URGENCY about anything. Seriously sick of this place want to move back to my original city. ( I have been here 5 long years hating most of it)
Even at work on Friday the IT guy told me my new desk was all set up (I had been sitting in someone else's desk while she was gone to be closer to seasoned employees for questions) went in Monday NOTHING was set up and I got to sit 4 hours waiting for access. How these places pay ppl to just sit is beyond me. I wanted very much to just go home. The gross incompetence that is accepted in everything here makes me CRAZY.

breaking the habits

July 14th, 2018 at 11:31 pm

I realized this week that my funk is my own to get out of. I spoke with hubby about my procrastination and inability to embrace the job I have now and even with interviewing for other jobs what if I am not happy there either.
I read other posts where people have made their budgets to pay and just looking forward to the target date. I asked myself why everyone else seems to embrace the day to day grind. What is my hurry or panic to get things over. I honestly do not have a plan for what to do after car is paid etc. I really need a goal or plan.
I just wanted to speed things along instead of doing it slow and steady. I sat down and wrote down all the items I have procrastinated on. I am taking a deep breath and starting everything one day at a time.
I will put in effort in what ever job I end up with and try not to be restless and thinking the grass is greener everywhere else. it is much easier said then done. my balances have dropped a bit since last month the CC / car and house about 300 a piece. Even if my job ends up not being great it is ONLY temporary.

another interview

July 13th, 2018 at 06:10 am

So the interview I went on Monday they decided on someone else not that I did not want job but as I am just finishing the second week of new job and so I have something to bring money in anyway.
I got an email the interviewer went to another bigger department in her company told them she thought I would meet their needs better so they want me to come interview. I told them although interested I could not get away midday from other job for meeting. thought that was it …… but they asked me what time worked for me so I am going in before work today. This job pays the same or a bit better then the job I just started and has a longer contract and is closer to home by a few miles. I am not going to get hyped up just going in talking and if it does not pan out I won't be disappointed. The current job is one where they stress accuracy but it is in an industry that changes prices/ rules constantly so it is more like chasing your tail to keep up.
If I do get the job I am interviewing for. I will need to give notice at current job but wonder if they will even want me to do those weeks since I am in early stages and it would be a waste of time & effort to train me for things if I am not there longer. I am always uncomfortable to give notice places I know they will get over it. I just was never good at cutting the cord even if I dislike the job.


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